RHONDDA B asked:
for the past 7 years i have been finding texts from other women on my husbands phone at 6 monthly intervals. He has messed with my mind again and again to a point that I am now so low and insecure that yesterday I began a course of prozac. I can just about function for my kids and have lost all my sparkle. I compulsively eat and wake up at 3.00am every day feeling suicidal. I have never been unfaithful and supported my husbands ever long career whilst falling prey to mine to look after him and the kids. I wouldnt suggest he has had an affair but its hutys to see him being so nice and gentlemanly to these other women when he sees me as a fat, boring housewife and can only spare me the time of day sometimes. I have just organised and paid for a day trip to Dublin in June to spend some time together and to my horror, his reponse was ‘I have to finish this project first’ Are there any other guys out there that would welcome a wife like this or am I being unfair.
just to add……I feel ashamed of myself for constantly checking his phone as I have never ever been like this before but he says I wont find anything on there…..no I say because I think he deletes it!! I am becoming paranoid
thank you all guysxx and girls! Just to add, no he doesnt reassure me. He blames the women and dsnt know why they text/email him … get that!! We have been to relate and he lied through his back teeth. I got so angry we ended the session. I just want to smack his smarmey face in sometimes but all he says is ‘if that will make you better do it’ blase bastard
some of the texts were rude but no suggestive and some of them were like ‘oh your such a sweetie’
just for you jimrich! I am a very intelligent woman h had bags of self confidence/self esteem and as for the communication skills, I am a trained **** counsellor but gave it up when my depression started.
I need to clear something up here. Firstly he is not the sole bread inner. I have my own mney and money is not an issue here. The kids are 13 and 11 and are my kids biologically. We decided not to have anymore as he loves my kids as his. Lastly we have tried the relate thingy and he says if I want to start a new life somewhere else on my own then its my choice – he never sows any remorse for anything hes done.
for the past 7 years i have been finding texts from other women on my husbands phone at 6 monthly intervals. He has messed with my mind again and again to a point that I am now so low and insecure that yesterday I began a course of prozac. I can just about function for my kids and have lost all my sparkle. I compulsively eat and wake up at 3.00am every day feeling suicidal. I have never been unfaithful and supported my husbands ever long career whilst falling prey to mine to look after him and the kids. I wouldnt suggest he has had an affair but its hutys to see him being so nice and gentlemanly to these other women when he sees me as a fat, boring housewife and can only spare me the time of day sometimes. I have just organised and paid for a day trip to Dublin in June to spend some time together and to my horror, his reponse was ‘I have to finish this project first’ Are there any other guys out there that would welcome a wife like this or am I being unfair.
just to add……I feel ashamed of myself for constantly checking his phone as I have never ever been like this before but he says I wont find anything on there…..no I say because I think he deletes it!! I am becoming paranoid
thank you all guysxx and girls! Just to add, no he doesnt reassure me. He blames the women and dsnt know why they text/email him … get that!! We have been to relate and he lied through his back teeth. I got so angry we ended the session. I just want to smack his smarmey face in sometimes but all he says is ‘if that will make you better do it’ blase bastard
some of the texts were rude but no suggestive and some of them were like ‘oh your such a sweetie’
just for you jimrich! I am a very intelligent woman h had bags of self confidence/self esteem and as for the communication skills, I am a trained **** counsellor but gave it up when my depression started.
I need to clear something up here. Firstly he is not the sole bread inner. I have my own mney and money is not an issue here. The kids are 13 and 11 and are my kids biologically. We decided not to have anymore as he loves my kids as his. Lastly we have tried the relate thingy and he says if I want to start a new life somewhere else on my own then its my choice – he never sows any remorse for anything hes done.