Purple Rain asked:
I’m in love with one of my guy friends and i have been for the past year, he knows how i feel about him but he said that he just wanted to stay friends and not date each other. I think this was because he is head over heels in love with my best friend. She says she doesn’t no if she likes him or not. I just can’t get over this guy ive tired so hard and their all going on a school trip to Dublin which im not going on and im scared they will end up going out or something. I no its selfish and horrible but that’s just how i feel. Is it possible that someone who once rejected you could end up wanting to go out with you? I just feel so sad
and i don’t want to get in the way of them startig a relationship because she’s my best friend but at the same time I don’t no what to do any advice?
I’m in love with one of my guy friends and i have been for the past year, he knows how i feel about him but he said that he just wanted to stay friends and not date each other. I think this was because he is head over heels in love with my best friend. She says she doesn’t no if she likes him or not. I just can’t get over this guy ive tired so hard and their all going on a school trip to Dublin which im not going on and im scared they will end up going out or something. I no its selfish and horrible but that’s just how i feel. Is it possible that someone who once rejected you could end up wanting to go out with you? I just feel so sad
and i don’t want to get in the way of them startig a relationship because she’s my best friend but at the same time I don’t no what to do any advice?
August 3rd, 2010 at 8:31 pm
I’m sorry hun but it sounds like his mind is made up about you. If he doesn’t like you after a year then he’s not likely to be into you in the future. If he were interested in the future then would you really be happy about being his back up after things don’t work out with your friend?
Does your friend know how you feel? If she understands that you are in love with him then she should back off even though it’s not going to happen between you and your guy friend. I did this for a friend when I was 16. She is still grateful for it to this day and I have no regrets about doing it either (even though I really liked the guy too at the time). One of you will come off as selfish if you don’t just let him remain a friend to you both.
I know it hurts so much now but please trust me.. the pain will pass. We all go through this at some point but it’s soon a distant memory. This happened to me at 15 and I still remember that sickening feeling of seeing/imagining your love with another girl. I’m now 21 with an amazing man that I wouldn’t have met if I hadn’t taken my failed relationships on the chin and moved on in the past. I hope you can do the same x
August 4th, 2010 at 6:33 am
I really do feel for you, im in a situation that is sort of the same except we did go out and i ended it stupidly:( anyway, i get the selfish thing, i know im being so selfish yet i can’t help it, i wish i could give you some amazing advice that would help you to move on but if i could then i wouldnt be stuck either umm i think all you can do is wait and see what happens, you never know, if they do go out he might decide he doesnt actually like her or it could just go very wrong, however the best thing you can do here is keep busy and distracted, find something else to focus on or some new people to talk to xx
August 5th, 2010 at 11:20 am
Well I think whatever happens, I’m afraid it looks unlikely that he’ll go out with you. I’m sure your really nice and everything, but if he doesn’t feel that way then he can’t help that. I think you should move on and possibly accept that he might get with your best friend. The sooner you accept it the easier it will be..
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